Nowadays, the problem of having bad friends is a big challenge for the youth; because, the influence of friendship is very deep even much more than family relationship.
How do we choose our friends?
Nowadays, the problem of having bad friends is a big challenge for the youth; because, the influence of friendship is very deep even much more than family relationship.
In this regard the Holy Qur'an says: “Oh, woe to me! I wish I had not taken that one as a friend.” [1]
Islam expresses characteristics of a Good friend as following:
1. Faith in God
“O you who have believed, do not take My enemies and your enemies as allies, extending to them affection while they have disbelieved in what came to you of the truth” [2]
2. Truthfulness
“O you, who have believed, fear Allah and be with those who are true.” [3]
3. Good-tempered
“And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend”
In conclusion, it must be mentioned that it is very important to know how to make friends and Families should help their children to find and choose good friends.
Notes:
1. Surah Al-Furqan, verse 28 « يا وَيْلَتي لَيْتَني لَمْ أَتَّخِذْ فُلاناً خَليلا »
2. Surah Al-Mumtahanah verse 1 « یا ایهَا الَّذِینَ آمَنُوا لَا تَتَّخِذُوا عَدُوِّی وَعَدُوَّکُمْ أَوْلِیاءَ تُلْقُونَ إِلَیهِمْ بِالْمَوَدَّةِ وَقَدْ کَفَرُوا بِمَا جَاءَکُمْ مِنْ الْحَقِّ»
3. Surah At-Tawbah, verse 119 «یا ایهَا الَّذِینَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَکُونُوا مَعَ الصَّادِقِینَ »
4. Surah Fussilat, verse 34 «ادْفَعْ بِالَّتِی هِی أَحْسَنُ فَإِذَا الَّذِی بَینَکَ وَبَینَهُ عَدَاوَةٌ کَأَنَّهُ وَلِی حَمِیمٌ »